August 22, 2007

Inspirational Living: Embracing the Seasons

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Inspirational Living: Embracing the Seasons

by Rev. ReBecca Ames Sala, Regular Contributor to Elegant Plus Magazine

Bengali poet Rabindranath Tagore writes in “The Peace of Autumn” 

Today the peace of autumn pervades the world.

In the radiant noon, silent and motionless,

the wide stillness rests like a tired bird

Spreading over the deserted fields to all horizons

its wings of golden green.

Today the thin thread of the river flows without song,

leaving no mark on its sandy banks.

The many distant villages bask in the sun with eyes

closed in idle and languid slumber.

In the stillness I hear in every blade of grass,

In every speck of dust, in every part of my own body,

in the visible and invisible worlds,

In the planets, the sun, and the stars, the joyous dance

of the atoms through endless time.

While it is hard to think about autumn right at this moment, (as I write this column it is a VERY humid 95 degrees), it will be here before we know it, and the inevitable back to school and/or frenzy of our regular lives will resume. 

Rabindranath Tagore’s reflection reminds me that we are on a joyous, inspirational dance with the seasons if we would only stop to take a moment to listen and pay attention with all of our senses.

How do you mark the beginning of each season? While there are holidays that help us, have you ever created your own way of celebrating? Do you have a favorite season you look forward to every year? Have you ever thought about why it is your favorite? Is it because of what the season itself represents or is it because of who you are with that makes it so special? 

Several years ago, a ministerial colleague and friend, who specializes in relationships suggested to my husband that we should go away four times a year to reconnect with each other and get away from the work and distractions in our lives. We loved the idea because we are both ministers, and it takes great intentionality to make time for each other.

Each season, we take turns finding a bed and breakfast in Connecticut where we live and surprise each other with a weekend away. It is a time just for us, an opportunity to relax and just be with each other and to get to know the state we have called home for the past four years. One recent weekend, my husband picked me up from work and I had no idea where we were going until we got there. It is nice to have a little mystery in your life now and then. He chose a beautiful B&B in Wallingford, CT with a pond and across the street from a winery. Everyone seemed especially friendly on this weekend and I left my concerns back in Stamford for a little while. We spent a lazy Saturday morning swinging in a hammock by a pond and then walked over for a wine tasting across the street later in the day. We found one of few remaining independent bookstores in Connecticut and spent hours browsing and talking with the owners. It was an inspired weekend because we both were able to just be in the moment without a set schedule.

While I have always loved the change of seasons, I appreciate them in a different way then I have in the past because I am take the time to look at the changes around me, feeling more connected to the people in my life, to nature and my place in the universe.

The seasons are God’s poetry made manifest for us to see and read if only we would take time and notice the subtle changes of color on an autumn leaf; the unique and fragile beauty of the first snow of the winter as it falls like lace on the barren branches; the first hopeful blossom that heralds the birth of spring or the glorious dance of the fireflies on a summer night. There is peace to be found in all the seasons as well as an opportunity for a deeper connection to the natural world and to each other. 

Weekend getaways do not have to be limited to spouses or partners. It is just as important to take the time to reconnect with friends you have not seen in a long time. As spiritual beings, we must feed our souls just as we feed our bodies. 

Before summer ends and things kick into high gear again, I invite you all to find your own way of making each season special with the people who are close to you, whether it is in your own back yard or in a place you have always wanted to go. The inspirational part of the journey is the relationships you rediscover along the way.

Namaste (I honor the light within you)

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October 1, 2006

The ABCs of De-stressing and Confidence Building  

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The ABCs of De-stressing and Confidence Building

by Dr. Robyn Silverman for Elegant Plus Magazine

It’s funny. But as the weather starts to cool down, we seem to get more stressed out! We question our abilities to “keep up with the Jones” and somehow exhaust ourselves with relationships, school, family, work, extra activities and everything else we could possibly heap onto our already full plates. And what about the ample time we consistently devote to primping, de-wrinkling and skimping on meals so that we can fit into our skinny jeans by Saturday night? You know what I mean. Have we had enough yet?

Here’s an article you may want to print out and tape to your dashboard, your bulletin board, or your planning board schedule book. Perhaps it will remind you that there is only one of you and it is OK to sit down every once in a while, kick up your heels and congratulate yourself on surviving and thriving through yet another day.

A.- Appreciate your best qualities: Big brains, great laugh, long legs, fabulous hair? If we could spend as much time focusing on the things we love about ourselves as we do about the things that frustrate us, we would be a great deal happier.

B.C.- Breathe and be Calm: Sometimes a deep breath can get us focused and give us just enough time to realize that everything is going to be OK. When we take a moment and calm ourselves down, we can think more clearly, become more productive, and show ourselves that no, indeed, we are not going to go insane.

D.- Date someone fabulous: You deserve someone who can see all the beautiful things in you. If you are already married or seriously involved, take your significant other out somewhere quiet or exciting and learn something new about them. Let them get to know something new about you!

E.F.- Eat healthy Foods: It is not about staying away from “bad foods” or foods that are fattening. It is about eating the foods that give sustained energy and nourishment. We are girls and women on the go! No stink’n fast food burger joint or teeny weeny salad is going to keep up with us. You deserve more. Eat well because you deserve to eat well.

G.- Go out with a friend: Good friends always have a way of putting a smile on our faces, don’t they? Taking time out to sit, talk, and laugh with a buddy can take pounds of stress off your life and make you realize that you are important.

H.- Hold out for the Good Stuff: Sometimes we take whatever man, opportunity, or dinner that comes are way—but we are worth more than that! It is time to step back and survey your life—if you are not happy with what you got, change it. You can have whatever your heart desires.

I.J.- Identify what “Juices” you: What gets you motivated, inspired, exuberant to the point of jumping on a couch and making a fool of yourself a bit? Whatever it is, do more of it. Whatever deadens this impulse, do less of it.

K.- Kiss the mirror: You are beautiful! Really, you are. It is time to start realizing that the only person stressing about your looks, is you! Accentuate your assets and show that you are proud.

L.- Laugh: Really hard and often. Laughing lets us “let go” and it just feels so good. Why take life so seriously? If you can’t remember what was so funny, spend some time with a little kid or a playful pet and they will remind you.

M.- Move your body: Exercise clears the brain, gets your body healthy and blows off steam. We always feel better about everything when we have endorphins pumping through our bodies!

N.O.- NO! Say it when you need to! You can’t do everything for all people and you can not go everywhere in one day. Though we might attempt it, it is not possible to be in more than one place at a time. When we try to cram in too much, we feel unsuccessful when everyone’s needs are not met. What about your needs? 

P.- Purge yourself of any toxic relationships: Toxic relationships are any relationships that make you feel bad about yourself when you are involved with them. You deserve the very best! Tell them to take a hike! It might be Fall but Spring cleaning is a necessity year round.

R.- Request help: It’s OK to ask for help! The most successful people in the world do it everyday. Feeling blue? Ask someone to lend an ear. Trying to reach a goal? Let a success coach help you! Got too much on your plate? Scrape some onto someone else’s! When we ask for help, we can make sure that the most important things get done and get done well.

S.- Say I love you: Say it to yourself and to those you love. It never gets old when you really mean it.

T.- Take some time for yourself: Sometimes it seems that we have enough time to focus on everyone else but ourselves. Curl up with a good book, go out shopping, take in a movie and realize what a good time you can have with the most fabulous person in the world…you!

U.- Unbuckle those too-tight clothes: Clothes that fit your body well are the ones that make us feel the best because they look the best. Nobody can be comfortable in clothes that are 2 sizes too small! The only one who knows the size of your jeans is you—and frankly, you are the only one who cares! Let it go!

V.- Value what you have: This means your health, your happiness, your relationships, your family, and your ability to contribute to this fabulous world we live in. It is always good to want more but we will always think the grass is greener somewhere else if we do not look around and realize that we have beautiful gardens growing right under our nose.

W.- Wonder. Dream, Fantasize about what could be…and then make it happen!

X.Y.- eXperience and Yearn: Get out and experience life! Learn something new! There are so many things to see and do. There really is no reason to be bored with life. Join a new class, date a new person, go hot air ballooning! When we do new things, we feel exhilarated and build competencies in new areas.

Zzzzzz- Get some sleep! Do you really need to stay up to watch that trash on TV? Some people say that it is relaxing—you know what else is relaxing? Sleep! Sleep makes us feel more beautiful, work more productively, make better decisions, and stay healthier than watching reruns of Loveboat! I guarantee it.

Additional Resources

Dr. Robyn Silverman is looking for preteens and teens to interview for her upcoming book! Please contact her if you are interested in participating!!!! Dr. Robyn is a success coach and body image expert who can help you to achieve your goals at any age. 

For more information, go to http://www.DrRobynSilverman.com or email her at DrRobyn@PowerfulWordsOnline.com. To share your thoughts about this column or to help Dr. Robyn with her research, join her blog at: http://kiss-my-assets.blogspot.com/

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January 21, 2005

What Does It Mean to Be Inspired?

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Inspirational Living: What Does It Mean to Be Inspired?
by Rev. ReBecca Ames-Sala, Regular Contributing Author to Elegant Plus Magazine

 This month I will focus on what inspiration means and what inspires me.  In later columns, I hope to find out what inspires you. 

One of the best definitions for inspiration is “the act of drawing in.”  This can be interpreted in many different ways.  Inspiration is a creative force that allows people to achieve and create remarkable works, be it painting, writing poetry or music, creating a company or truly living one’s dream.  Inspiration can also be found by looking at what others have done in their lives.  I am inspired when I read about regular people living their lives to the fullest, creating change within their communities against incredible odds.

There is a spiritual quality to the word; to be inspired is to be in touch with the divine, a true drawing in of breath, beauty, an act of complete selflessness.  It is about finding the true essence of oneself, without all the labels and expectations that society places on us in our daily lives. 

 We live in a world today in which we are saturated with information coming at us from many different sources.  It is easy to feel guilty for even wanting to take some time to sit and just be, but taking that time is an important part of self-care.

 Below are the links to some of my favorite websites to offer you a little “inspiration break” while you are sitting at your desk feeling the need to relax for a moment. 

For a daily meditation:

For more in-depth spiritual exploration:

For a little bit of pet therapy:

Or how about some art therapy:

If you are inspired to volunteer, but just do not know where to begin:

In preparation for my next column, I would like to know about you, the readers and what inspires you each day.  What helps make you the person that you know you are inside and sustains you during the difficult times? What leaves you in awe?

 Is it volunteering?  Listening to music? Reading an especially good book that you just can’t put down?  A piece of artwork that leaves you moved?  All are ways to be inspired.  

 Until then…….

 Namaste (I honor the light within you) 

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